I was chatting recently with Mark Adlestone, the 3rd generation of his family to run Beaverbrooks the jewellers in the UK.
He runs a highly successful business with a great culture, and as a result it's been named one of the 'best places to work' in recent surveys by the Financial Times and the Sunday Times newspapers.
He believes that the 'company values' are at the core of this success, and prouduly showed them to me - displayed prominently on the wall. They all made a lot of sense - but one stood out in particular:
"Tell The Whole Truth Faster"
He explained that so often people dance around an issue, not wanting to offend others or create a confrontation - when really this just creates a bigger problem for a longer period of time. Whenever a member of his management team complains to him about a member of staff he always asks them 'Do they know exactly how you feel?' - and the answer is often 'no'.
It's perhaps a very English trait - and one that does us no good. We call it politeness, tact or diplomacy - but it leads to talking behind people's backs, resentment and mistrust.
I'm as guilty of this as anyone. I hate confrontation. I always want to be nice and friendly. But it ends up getting me in a pickle from time to time.
In any situation it really is far better to Tell The Whole Truth Faster - and that's going to be something I'm going to work hard at doing in the future.





Sun, 08/05/2007 - 06:32
Hi,
I'm exactly like this too i'm not good with confrontation, Although i'm not a shy person or 'fear' confrontation i just don't like it and it would be better without having to do it.
I think I'll talk this one through with my life/business coach!
That said situations are rarely as bad as they seem in your head when you run the scenarios of what could go wrong and i never think of it going right and this is what usually puts me off confronting people.
It's good to know I'm not the only person who has these problems though!
The company values thing is a good idea and i think I'll do one of those my self.
Take care
Paul
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